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Subject: Re: i've been thinking about this actually

> > there's just nothing wrong with him.
> >
> > i could NEVER maintain interest in someone like that.
>
> Why not? I'm incredibly curious.

only flawed people are attractive.

and i'm not going to end that sentence with "to me," because i've had this conversation with all types of people and this is universal.

we're not looking for perfect people! perfect people aren't challenging.

we're not even looking for people who are perfect "for us," because if we listed that person's traits, they're usually SHOCK! a lot like we are.
and what would you do with someone like that?
sit around agreeing with one another? that's no fun!

no, you want someone who can teach you things that you never thought you would find interesting, but then you do! because they're teaching you and you love and respect them.
you want someone with whom you can have vibrant debates and come out still disagreeing but also understanding the other person's perspective. because that makes you a better person.

you want someone to fight with, but only sometimes, because fighting is SEXY and it feels good to get really angry sometimes, even better to get SO angry that you're reminded how much this person must mean to you if you're getting so worked up. even better if it reminds you that your life would REALLY suck if that person went away because, for those 12 or 15 hours, you barely talked and that was TORTURE.

you want someone whose little annoying habits you can complain about to your friends but who, when they pull you into a hug, makes everything okay again and you feel totally safe and loved.

you don't want someone who's really sensible and smart who will say, "joanna, you can't hate a month. that makes no sense. there is nothing Really wrong with february, it's just a lifelong coincidence that horrible things happen to you in february." they won't say that, they'll just say, "it's the first of february! let's listen to that album and get wasted!"